How Getting Married Can Halt Your Chances Of Buying A Home

They popped the question, you said “I do”. Getting married is now officially happening. When you say I do, you’re not just saying I do, to that person, you’re saying I do to all their finances, positive or negative as well. Their finances are, will shape “how” or “if”you can buy that home. Why getting married first may be bad move…

The old pattern of getting married and then settling down, is no longer valid. The dream of attaining homeownership can come to a screeching halt, if would-be buyers don’t plan out their finances in the early stages of their relationship.

Essentials You Must Know About Your Future Spouse Before Tying The Knot

  • *Debt-the single most limiting factor above and beyond anything else is your spouse’s debt. Let’s say, your spouse has student loans, credit cards, an auto loan, and payment obligations. If you’re buying a home, there’s a good chance even if they are not on the loan, their liability obligations will be counted against your qualifying ratios, reducing your ability to qualify for the loan and consummate the house sale. Here’s the deal-depending on the property state, it may or may not be a community property state. If it is a community property state, for example like California, debt of the spouse is automatically joint no matter who is on the loan. Problem solved by buying the house first.
  • Credit Score-if your credit score is 800, and your spouse’s is 620. Lenders always use the lower of the two credit scores, your loan just got really pricey! In fact, if we look at a loan in the amount of $300,000 assuming a 30 year fixed rate mortgage, an individual with an 800 credit score could secure a 4.625% interest rate versus somebody with a 620 credit score, might receive a 5.5% interest rate. Looking at the two interest rates over the long haul side by side, it’s an additional $57,942 more in interest because your spouse has a 620 credit score. That’s $161 per month more in interest. Problem solved by…once again buying the house first.
  • Cash-if your spouse can’t source cash deposits going into their bank account, you both lose. Even if the money is not being used in the house purchase, the mortgage company is still required by federal law to source any deposits. Lesson learned-buy the house first!
  • Loan Type-a diamond in the rough, if you’re using a conventional loan to buy a house when you’re married, and the other spouse is not on the loan, their liabilities will not count against your debt ratios as they otherwise normally would. The culprits loans by the FHA, and VA and the USDA.

Lenders will look at your ability to qualify for the house purchase based on a joint application in most instances unless otherwise requested. By qualifying for the loan prior to getting married, a prudent couple would stand to gain the most benefit by having more options available to them. Jumping in headfirst by getting married does limit the way a lender can qualify a would-be homebuyer.

So if you’re engaged or will be, STOP THERE

Congrats on getting engaged, now go talk to a mortgage lender to see how your financing options can line up. Doing this before you get married can mean the difference between settling down now or settling down years down the road.

If you recently got engaged, and are thinking about buying a house, let’s start the process. Begin by getting a complementary mortgage rate quote for an affordable payment today!

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RELATED MORTGAGE ADVICE FROM SCOTT SHELDON

When buying a home, it’s natural to want the lowest mortgage rate possible. But sometimes, chasing a slightly better rate from another lender—especially after your offer has already been accepted—can backfire in a big way. Let’s walk through a real-world scenario. You’ve got an offer accepted on a house. You’re working with a lender who has you approved, documents in underwriting, and a 21-day close of escrow in place. Everything is moving forward. Then you hear from another lender offering a rate that’s 0.25% lower, with slightly better closing costs. It’s tempting. But before you make a jump, here’s what you need to consider. Switching Lenders Comes with Time Costs When you pivot to a new lender mid-contract, they’ll need to: Re-underwrite your entire loan, Order a new appraisal, Disclose and sign new loan documents, Submit the file for final loan approval, Schedule and fund closing—all over again. This doesn’t happen overnight. Even in ideal circumstances, the new lender is likely going to need at least 25–30 days to close. If you’re in a fast-moving or competitive market, this is a real problem. Most sellers won’t grant a contract extension just because you’re switching lenders. So, what happens next? A Contract Extension Can Jeopardize Your Deal Asking for a contract extension means the seller must agree to delay closing. But that delay introduces risk—especially if the seller has backup offers or simply wants certainty. They may not grant the extension. Or worse, they could cancel the deal outright and take another buyer’s offer. Even if the seller agrees to extend, your earnest money and negotiation power could take a hit. And for what? A slightly lower rate that might save you $50 to $75 a month? Mortgage Rates Aren’t as Far Apart as You Think Here’s the truth: all mortgage lenders get their money from the same place—the bond market. The pricing differences between lenders usually range from 0.125% to 0.25% in rate on any given day. If one lender seems to be offering dramatically better pricing, the first thing you should ask is: How? Head over to FreddieMac.com and check the average 30-year fixed rate posted weekly. This is one of the most reliable benchmarks for where rates truly stand in the market. If a lender is quoting you a rate that’s well below that average, ask for the details: Are they charging extra points? Is this a teaser rate with a prepayment penalty? Is it based on a different loan product or risky structure? Often, what sounds “too good to be true”… is. Consider the Bigger Picture Think long-term. If you’re financing $600,000, a 0.25% lower rate may reduce your payment by roughly $75/month. But what if you lose the house and have to start over? That monthly savings doesn’t mean much if you’re outbid on your dream home or lose your deposit. Also, remember: you’re not going to keep this rate forever. Today’s homebuyers typically refinance when rates drop by about 0.75% or more. So if rates fall within the next year or two, you’ll likely be refinancing anyway. Instead of paying extra points now or risking the entire deal for a minor monthly savings, it may be better to accept a slightly higher rate—knowing you’ll refinance when the time is right. The Real Risk Isn’t the Rate—It’s the Delay When shopping for a home loan, don’t just ask, “What’s your rate?” Ask: Can you close on time? Is this rate sustainable or based on hidden costs? Will switching lenders delay or jeopardize my contract? A home purchase contract is a binding agreement between you and the seller to perform within a set timeframe. If you can’t meet those dates because you're chasing a slightly better rate elsewhere, you may want to reconsider if now is the right time to buy. Final Thoughts Yes, interest rates matter. But execution matters more. Before making a switch mid-transaction, talk to your lender. Have an honest conversation about pricing, timelines, and strategy. You might find that staying the course, securing the house, and planning to refinance later offers a better path to financial security. Want to Know Your Options? Let’s compare rates and strategies the smart way—without risking your dream home. 👉 Click here to get a custom rate quote today.

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